Author Archives: Angela Winslow

The Love Avoidant

So, what does it mean to be called a Love Avoidant?  A Love Avoider is someone who resists our natural, human need to connect. A Love Avoider has walled him/herself off as to negate the need and the desire for … Continue reading

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Boundaries in relationships – bombs and sneak attacks!

I am grateful to Terry Real (renowned couples therapist and author of “I Don’t Want to Talk About It.” on male depression and “The New Rules of Marriage”)  for his Relational Life Theory. Terry’s theory provides a blueprint for individual … Continue reading

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Low sexual desire

The new book by sexual educator Emily Nagasaki is my new ‘go to’ to recommend for couples experiencing  low sexual desire.  Much of the takeaway is simple re-education and understanding on the question: What is normal sexual desire? Some fascinating … Continue reading

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Why people risk all for an affair

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I work a lot with couples who are recovering from an infidelity. Inevitably the question comes up “How could he/she risk all that we’ve built together for an affair?” Many therapists immediately turn to the marriage/relationship for reasons to explain … Continue reading

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Codependence 101

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Codependence in couple relationships is a favorite topic of mine. It is one of the most common, unhealthy relationship patterns and underlies both major and minor struggles in the relationship. It is also at the heart of parental struggles to … Continue reading

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Esther Perel on avoiding Kitchen Sinking during arguments

I recently ran across a blogpost by Esther Perel on how to avoid ‘Kitchen-Sinking’ during arguments. Esther is a brilliant therapist and I am familiar with her work on sex and power in relationships. It was wonderful to find her … Continue reading

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Healing After Infidelity

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Building trust after an affair is one of the most daunting challenges a couple will ever face. Think of a relationship as a savings account. Every moment you spend together from the instant you meet, you’re making a deposit. Those … Continue reading

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Are Prescription Drugs The Answer?

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Recently a client who had struggled for months in her attempts to reign in the anger over her husband’s affair, reported a significant change in her feelings and behavior after starting an antidepressant. She told me that she felt she now … Continue reading

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Research On Divorce Effects

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Sometimes individuals who are contemplating divorce come in to get perspective on whether taking this step is reasonable for themselves and their children. There is a great amount of research on divorce and children, all pointing to the same stubborn … Continue reading

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The Cliteracy Project

Sex Education: The Missing Chapter from The Huffington Post on Vimeo.Image: Huffington Post, Cliteracy Project http://www.estherperel.com/i-am-cliterate-are-you/ This refreshing video from the Huffington Post, Cliteracy Project is a must view for men and women. Referenced on noted sex therapist Esther Perel’s … Continue reading

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