Some Unrealistic Ideas About Love & Marriage

I attended a seminar by Janis Abrahms last week. She’s the author of the often recommended book for healing after infidelity called After the Affair, nowwith a second edition that includes new chapters addressing the internet and emotional affairs. One simple list she had in her handout was a good reminder of common fallacies about love and marriage. Here are a few I encounter a lot.

*My partner should be able to anticipate my needs.
*I shouldn’t have to work to be trusted.
*My partner should be emotionally available to me whenever I need him/her.
*Love is a feeling that can’t be forced or manufactured. It either exists or it doesn’t.
*We shouldn’t have to work at feeling sexual desire for each other. It should come naturally or not at all.

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