Author Archives: Angela Winslow

The drain of parenting…..

I see many young couples struggling the stresses of maintaining intimacy in their marriage while parenting and running the household.  I ran across this article, originally published in “The Conversation”. +++++++++++++++++++++++++ Lots of women look forward to motherhood – getting … Continue reading

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False Affair Confession

After an affair, couples come into counseling believing that the offending spouse will tell the truth in the office. That is rarely the case.  I tell them that my “TruthMachine” is out for repairs and they remain stuck in the … Continue reading

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Responsible Time Outs

We have all experienced arguments where we or our partner are so flooded with emotion and upset that we need a break to stop the destruction. The best way to stop  verbal abuse – from self and another- is to … Continue reading

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Hold me

Sometimes a song sticks with me and this is one of them. So often couples come in seeking to reconnect emotionally. Words get in the way of connection and the gap can be closed with simple physical, non-sexual closeness.  Enjoy … Continue reading

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Is porn causing problems?

I ran across this quiz in the online Men’s Health magazine. http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/quiz-are-you-addicted-to-porn To avoid the ads associated with this link I copied and pasted the quiz and scoring. I found the comments in the scoring very accurate. Pornography stimulates chemicals … Continue reading

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COUPLES COMMUNICATION SKILLS – IT’S A DIALOGUE NOT A DEBATE

Many couples cite ‘communication skills’ as a reason for entering therapy. What that usually means is “help me convince my partner that the way they see things is wrong.” Why is it so difficult to listen to someone who sees … Continue reading

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Answering the “Why?” of an Affair

Every week, I sit with couples trying to find their way through the devastation of infidelity in search of safety and stability in their marriage. The choice to stay in a relationship even with all the pain of the recovery … Continue reading

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The Love Avoidant

So, what does it mean to be called a Love Avoidant?  A Love Avoider is someone who resists our natural, human need to connect. A Love Avoider has walled him/herself off as to negate the need and the desire for … Continue reading

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Boundaries in relationships – bombs and sneak attacks!

I am grateful to Terry Real (renowned couples therapist and author of “I Don’t Want to Talk About It.” on male depression and “The New Rules of Marriage”)  for his Relational Life Theory. Terry’s theory provides a blueprint for individual … Continue reading

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Low sexual desire

The new book by sexual educator Emily Nagasaki is my new ‘go to’ to recommend for couples experiencing  low sexual desire.  Much of the takeaway is simple re-education and understanding on the question: What is normal sexual desire? Some fascinating … Continue reading

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