Author Archives: Angela Winslow

The Nagging Question

Usually the partner hurt by the affair questions what attraction the ‘other person’ had for their partner. Was she sexier than me? Smarter? Did he have more money? The more pertinent question for the one who strayed is “What part … Continue reading

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Reaching ‘critical mass’ in therapy

David Snarsch talks about this concept in his book Intimacy & Desire. which refers to that point in a relationship where anxiety and pressure converge to a point where pivotal change is inevitable.  The idea is that therapy should move the couple … Continue reading

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Trusting Self Again

One of the biggest hurdles in healing from infidelity is to trust yourself again. When the affair is discovered, your world is rocked. What you thought was true and stable has turned out not to be as you thought. Deciding … Continue reading

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What is Marriage For?

http://www.viralnova.com/marriage-is-not-for-you/ Mostly influenced by a conversation with his father, this essay makes one think about the reasons we decide to get married!  

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Relationship Life Cycle

I like the way Dr. Tammy Nelson describes the life phases of a monogamous relationship. Beginning phases are attraction and longing which are usually called ‘falling in love….. then it’s on to attachment and safety –a placid time of low … Continue reading

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Some Unrealistic Ideas About Love & Marriage

I attended a seminar by Janis Abrahms last week. She’s the author of the often recommended book for healing after infidelity called After the Affair, nowwith a second edition that includes new chapters addressing the internet and emotional affairs. One … Continue reading

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War and marriage

USA Today 4-25-12http://www.usatoday.com/news/military/story/2012-04-24/military-marriages-special-forces-war-strain/54513768/1#.T5gd0YTp0tw.email Excellent article describing how the individual experience of wartime deployment causes emotional detachment and rage and negatively affecting marriages and family relationships.

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The Lure of Infatuation

A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there’s less of you.
- Margaret Atwood Many times I see couples who are deciding whether or not to get divorced. Usually there is one partner who is wanting the marriage … Continue reading

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Myth of the Blended Family

In working with stepfamilies I find that there are often unrealistic expectations of a ‘Brady bunch’ blending and confusion about how to handle discipline with step children. My opinion is that the bio parent should be the one to handle … Continue reading

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Infidelity…Fight or flight?

“Do not make a life altering decision while you are in the initial stages of surviving infidelity. Even though it may feel as though there is no hope at all for your relationship, there may still be hope. Even though your … Continue reading

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