Author Archives: Angela Winslow
Answering the “Why?” of an Affair
Every week, I sit with couples trying to find their way through the devastation of infidelity in search of safety and stability in their marriage. The choice to stay in a relationship even with all the pain of the recovery … Continue reading
The Love Avoidant
So, what does it mean to be called a Love Avoidant? A Love Avoider is someone who resists our natural, human need to connect. A Love Avoider has walled him/herself off as to negate the need and the desire for … Continue reading
Boundaries in relationships – bombs and sneak attacks!
I am grateful to Terry Real (renowned couples therapist and author of “I Don’t Want to Talk About It.” on male depression and “The New Rules of Marriage”) for his Relational Life Theory. Terry’s theory provides a blueprint for individual … Continue reading
Low sexual desire
The new book by sexual educator Emily Nagasaki is my new ‘go to’ to recommend for couples experiencing low sexual desire. Much of the takeaway is simple re-education and understanding on the question: What is normal sexual desire? Some fascinating … Continue reading
Why people risk all for an affair
I work a lot with couples who are recovering from an infidelity. Inevitably the question comes up “How could he/she risk all that we’ve built together for an affair?” Many therapists immediately turn to the marriage/relationship for reasons to explain … Continue reading
Codependence 101
Codependence in couple relationships is a favorite topic of mine. It is one of the most common, unhealthy relationship patterns and underlies both major and minor struggles in the relationship. It is also at the heart of parental struggles to … Continue reading
Esther Perel on avoiding Kitchen Sinking during arguments
I recently ran across a blogpost by Esther Perel on how to avoid ‘Kitchen-Sinking’ during arguments. Esther is a brilliant therapist and I am familiar with her work on sex and power in relationships. It was wonderful to find her … Continue reading
Healing After Infidelity
Building trust after an affair is one of the most daunting challenges a couple will ever face. Think of a relationship as a savings account. Every moment you spend together from the instant you meet, you’re making a deposit. Those … Continue reading
Are Prescription Drugs The Answer?
Recently a client who had struggled for months in her attempts to reign in the anger over her husband’s affair, reported a significant change in her feelings and behavior after starting an antidepressant. She told me that she felt she now … Continue reading
Research On Divorce Effects
Sometimes individuals who are contemplating divorce come in to get perspective on whether taking this step is reasonable for themselves and their children. There is a great amount of research on divorce and children, all pointing to the same stubborn … Continue reading