There is an old saying that contradicts the emphasis on communicating feelings and frustrations to our partners. It says, “Marriage is improved by the two or three things not said each day.” So many arguments begin with sniping about minor, … Continue reading →

Is it possible that children can be both the best and the worst thing for a marriage? Once children enter the picture, parents often throw themselves into kids’ activities with enthusiasm that seems to add depth and interest to the relationship as they … Continue reading →

Unfounded jealousy can cause problems in a relationship however it can also be an accurate reaction to valid suspicions.  Sometimes a partner may be oblivious to the subtle manipulations of someone who is attracted to him or her and the … Continue reading →

When working with a couple where one partner has had an affair the question of why it happened always comes up. The conventional wisdom is to look to the deficiencies of ‘the relationship’ – what did not happen in the … Continue reading →

I ran across this excellent list of indications that the quest for love or sex may rise to the level of an addiction: **Constantly seeking a sexual partner, new romance or significant other **An inability or difficulty in being alone … Continue reading →

I recently attended a conference on sexuality in relationships and heard a presentation by marriage and sex therapist Barry McCarthy on Building Bridges to Desire – healthy sex in long term relationship. McCarthy believes that when sex is going well … Continue reading →

Flirtatious texting ( sexting ) is once again a hot topic in my office with the recent news of Tony Parker and Eva Longaria’s divorce filing said to be in part due to Tony’s one year texting flirtation with a … Continue reading →

You don’t have to have sex to cheat on your marriage. An emotional affair can be just as dangerous to a marriage as a one night stand – and often more complicated to remedy. When one partner is emotionally tied … Continue reading →

Practicing gratitude is a very powerful yet underestimated tool that increases quality of life and satisfaction. Though practiced individually gratitude can also be helpful in improving a relationship. Often we get focused on what doesn’t work or what we don’t … Continue reading →