Author Archives: pwsadmin
When is it too late for counseling?
Sometimes a couple comes in with a 10+ year marriage and one partner is much more dissatisfied with the relationship than the other. Both describe a relationship where they have become working partners caring for the kids but with nothing … Continue reading
NOT "Just Friends"
Shirley Glass in her book Not “Just Friends” makes the point that in our modern society with technology making it ever easier to cultivate communication via email and text, we are seeing affairs that are different from previous generations. Today … Continue reading
Crazy Making
“Crazy making” isn’t a clinical term, however I use it to describe what happens when one partner in a relationship has an outside emotional interest in another and then magnifies flaws in their partner and the relationship to justify ending it. … Continue reading
Decision to love
Phase one of a romantic relationship lasts between 2 to 3 years depending upon the amount of real contact between the individuals. This means that long distance relationships with intermittent contact outside the context of day to day living ——(((((((where … Continue reading
Relationship Life Cycle – Stage One
Falling in love is ‘heady’ and a wonderful thing. Sex is hot, he/she is always on my mind, completes me, makes life full/real/worth living. Brain chemistry is altered in this phase. If we could only bottle it! The trite adage … Continue reading
Strip Clubs and Marriage
Read one man’s opinion on why he thinks a trip now and then with business associates to a strip club keeps the eroticism in his marriage and sex with his wife alive. http://www.yourtango.com/200913788/strip-clubs-help-my-marriage?page=0%2C0
Is sex addiction real or an excuse?
The debate continues with no clear conclusion. Estimates are that 5% of the population are compulsive sexually and use multiple partners for quick ego boosts -like eating chips when you’re really hungry for a meal. It’s more frightening to be vulnerable to your spouse than … Continue reading
Building Trust & Intimacy
Trust and intimacy go together. To be emotionally and physically intimate individuals have to let their guard down, be genuine and let their partner do the same. This requires a sense of emotional safety on both sides and a belief … Continue reading
Suggestions for Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a day where we show our love with a card or token to a person we care about. Men often feel pressured to create a perfect day. And as always, when faced with perfectionism the worry … Continue reading
Book on "Affair-Proofing" Your Relationship
I recommend this interesting book by M. Gary Neuman called ‘Emotional Infidelity – How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship’. It has interesting observations about the need for dependence in relationships and why/how to … Continue reading