Is it possible that children can be both the best and the worst thing for a marriage? Once children enter the picture, parents often throw themselves into kids’ activities with enthusiasm that seems to add depth and interest to the relationship as they see themselves happily engaged in building their perfect family. Over time this kid-centric focus wears on both parents – who have no time for their own social life with other adults, and children – who are overscheduled and unable to entertain themselves without parental involvement. After a decade of playing tag team with kids activities, parents often have grown distant from each other just when their kids begin to see them as an embarrassment and want more social independence. To avoid divorce it may be wiser to ignore your kids and focus on the relationship rather than to focus on your kids and ignore the relationship….or strive for a happy medium!