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Understanding emotional reactivity-it’s childsplay

Who is talking…your child or adult? This is an important awareness couples develop in the course of RLT work with me. (Terry Real Relational Life Therapy). The conception is that there are two parts of our psyche that come into … Continue reading

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Helping couples talk about money…..

When couples have conflict about spending and money it often boils down to a power struggle. To start a conversation about this hot topic it’s good to explore each partner’s priorities and their experiences in their families surrounding money and … Continue reading

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How Not To Hate Your Partner…. Terry Real’s approach is ‘blowing up’ on Goop!

How Not to End Up Hating Your Partner For the last 5 years I have been taking Terry Real’s training on working with couples.  More are discovering his approach and it’s effectiveness which I find really exciting! How Not To … Continue reading

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The drain of parenting…..

I see many young couples struggling the stresses of maintaining intimacy in their marriage while parenting and running the household.  I ran across this article, originally published in “The Conversation”. +++++++++++++++++++++++++ Lots of women look forward to motherhood – getting … Continue reading

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False Affair Confession

After an affair, couples come into counseling believing that the offending spouse will tell the truth in the office. That is rarely the case.  I tell them that my “TruthMachine” is out for repairs and they remain stuck in the … Continue reading

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Responsible Time Outs

We have all experienced arguments where we or our partner are so flooded with emotion and upset that we need a break to stop the destruction. The best way to stop  verbal abuse – from self and another- is to … Continue reading

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Hold me

Sometimes a song sticks with me and this is one of them. So often couples come in seeking to reconnect emotionally. Words get in the way of connection and the gap can be closed with simple physical, non-sexual closeness.  Enjoy … Continue reading

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Is porn causing problems?

I ran across this quiz in the online Men’s Health magazine. http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/quiz-are-you-addicted-to-porn To avoid the ads associated with this link I copied and pasted the quiz and scoring. I found the comments in the scoring very accurate. Pornography stimulates chemicals … Continue reading

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COUPLES COMMUNICATION SKILLS – IT’S A DIALOGUE NOT A DEBATE

Many couples cite ‘communication skills’ as a reason for entering therapy. What that usually means is “help me convince my partner that the way they see things is wrong.” Why is it so difficult to listen to someone who sees … Continue reading

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