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War and marriage

USA Today 4-25-12http://www.usatoday.com/news/military/story/2012-04-24/military-marriages-special-forces-war-strain/54513768/1#.T5gd0YTp0tw.email Excellent article describing how the individual experience of wartime deployment causes emotional detachment and rage and negatively affecting marriages and family relationships.

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The Lure of Infatuation

A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there’s less of you.
- Margaret Atwood Many times I see couples who are deciding whether or not to get divorced. Usually there is one partner who is wanting the marriage … Continue reading

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Myth of the Blended Family

In working with stepfamilies I find that there are often unrealistic expectations of a ‘Brady bunch’ blending and confusion about how to handle discipline with step children. My opinion is that the bio parent should be the one to handle … Continue reading

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Infidelity…Fight or flight?

“Do not make a life altering decision while you are in the initial stages of surviving infidelity. Even though it may feel as though there is no hope at all for your relationship, there may still be hope. Even though your … Continue reading

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75% of married women believe sex is very important!

http://yourlife.usatoday.com/sex-relationships/marriage/story/2012-02-06/75-of-married-women-say-sex-is-very-important/52993576/1?loc=interstitialskip Married sex is almost never portrayed on tv and in movies mainly because it involves emotional intimacy and connection beyond the infatuation stage (first two years) that’s difficult to capture on film.  So what keeps sex alive? Most women … Continue reading

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From Crisis to Healing

Working with couples in therapy immediately after the discovery of an infidelity first requires crisis management along with a plan for healing. In the safety of the office feelings of both partners must be explored and acknowledged. A recounting of … Continue reading

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Musings on cohabitation

I ran across an article in the Journal of Family Psychology indicating that couples who live together before  marriage  are more likely to get divorced than couples who don’t move in together.  At first glance I thought that this makes … Continue reading

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Bite your tongue!

There is an old saying that contradicts the emphasis on communicating feelings and frustrations to our partners. It says, “Marriage is improved by the two or three things not said each day.” So many arguments begin with sniping about minor, … Continue reading

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Can Marriage survive kids?

Is it possible that children can be both the best and the worst thing for a marriage? Once children enter the picture, parents often throw themselves into kids’ activities with enthusiasm that seems to add depth and interest to the relationship as they … Continue reading

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Jealousy may mean you’re paying attention

Unfounded jealousy can cause problems in a relationship however it can also be an accurate reaction to valid suspicions.  Sometimes a partner may be oblivious to the subtle manipulations of someone who is attracted to him or her and the … Continue reading

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