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Strip Clubs and Marriage

Read one man’s opinion on why he thinks a trip now and then with business associates to a strip club keeps the eroticism in his marriage and sex with his wife alive. http://www.yourtango.com/200913788/strip-clubs-help-my-marriage?page=0%2C0

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Is sex addiction real or an excuse?

The debate continues with no clear conclusion. Estimates are that 5% of the population are compulsive sexually and use multiple partners for quick ego boosts -like eating chips when you’re really hungry for a meal. It’s more frightening to be vulnerable to your spouse than … Continue reading

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Building Trust & Intimacy

Trust and intimacy go together. To be emotionally and physically intimate individuals have to let their guard down, be genuine and let their partner do the same. This requires a sense of emotional safety on both sides and a belief … Continue reading

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Suggestions for Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a day where we show our love with a card or token to a person we care about. Men often feel pressured to create a perfect day. And as always, when faced with perfectionism the worry … Continue reading

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Book on "Affair-Proofing" Your Relationship

I recommend this interesting book by M. Gary Neuman called ‘Emotional Infidelity – How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship’.  It has interesting observations about the need for dependence in relationships and why/how to … Continue reading

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What about sex?

Asking this question gives important assessment information about a relationship. It indicates level of closeness and emotional intimacy and a willingness to be vulnerable and available. It’s also a great indicator of how much underlying anger there is simmering underneath from … Continue reading

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Finite Emotional Energy

We only have so much emotional energy to expend before we are depleted. For example, if we talk about the trials and tribulations of work with friends of the opposite sex, do we really feel like going over it all … Continue reading

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Absence makes the heart….delusional?

Whether away on a business trip or having a long distance relationship via email, text and phone, when the object of our romantic interest is away we tend to hold an ideal vision of him/her the mind. Upon return there is a … Continue reading

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The Pursuer/Distancer Dance

Ever had the feeling that you wanted more from your partner emotionally and physically but she/he wants more independence and is just too busy? Or do you feel like you’re being smothered by your partner’s demands for connection – more … Continue reading

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Pointing fingers

When working with couples I’m struck by how the therapy process usually starts off with each partner pointing the finger at the other. He does this and she does that. How long this stage lasts can vary between one session … Continue reading

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