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Is too much closeness bad for sex?

I heard an interesting segment on the news today about research showing that couples who shared chores equally had less sex. So what does this mean for desire and attraction? When couples are interviewed about when they feel most attracted … Continue reading

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Why sex is usually good in a hotel room!

Clients often tell me that sex is better in a hotel room. It doesn’t take rocket science to understand why this may be so. A hotel room is a protected environment – no children, laundry or thoughts of chores left … Continue reading

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Growth is uncomfortable is long term relationships

How easy it is to fall in love. In the early stages each partner is eager and willing to fuel the fires with small sacrifices. “Oh a steakhouse is fine, I’ll just eat chicken.” “I don’t really love that thing … Continue reading

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Set Limits on your Technology!

Couples often point to the cell phone and Facebook as distractions from being present in the moment and to their partner. This video illustrates how connection with the person right next to us is compromised when our connection to our … Continue reading

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The Nagging Question

Usually the partner hurt by the affair questions what attraction the ‘other person’ had for their partner. Was she sexier than me? Smarter? Did he have more money? The more pertinent question for the one who strayed is “What part … Continue reading

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Reaching ‘critical mass’ in therapy

David Snarsch talks about this concept in his book Intimacy & Desire. which refers to that point in a relationship where anxiety and pressure converge to a point where pivotal change is inevitable.  The idea is that therapy should move the couple … Continue reading

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Trusting Self Again

One of the biggest hurdles in healing from infidelity is to trust yourself again. When the affair is discovered, your world is rocked. What you thought was true and stable has turned out not to be as you thought. Deciding … Continue reading

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What is Marriage For?

http://www.viralnova.com/marriage-is-not-for-you/ Mostly influenced by a conversation with his father, this essay makes one think about the reasons we decide to get married!  

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Relationship Life Cycle

I like the way Dr. Tammy Nelson describes the life phases of a monogamous relationship. Beginning phases are attraction and longing which are usually called ‘falling in love….. then it’s on to attachment and safety –a placid time of low … Continue reading

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Some Unrealistic Ideas About Love & Marriage

I attended a seminar by Janis Abrahms last week. She’s the author of the often recommended book for healing after infidelity called After the Affair, nowwith a second edition that includes new chapters addressing the internet and emotional affairs. One … Continue reading

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