“Crazy making” isn’t a clinical term, however I use it to describe what happens when one partner in a relationship has an outside emotional interest in another and then magnifies flaws in their partner and the relationship to justify ending it. In doing so he/she avoids taking responsibility for being drawn to another as the primary reason the relationship suddenly is so bad, unhappiness so great and prospects for improvement so dim. The abandoned partner is left scratching his/her head thinking – “Huh? Why all of a sudden is she so unhappy with me? These issues are pretty routine in a long term relationship. Why doesn’t she want to work on this anymore. It must be me.” Fact is that a day to day relationship can not compete with a new infatuation.