Phase one of a romantic relationship lasts between 2 to 3 years depending upon the amount of real contact between the individuals. This means that long distance relationships with intermittent contact outside the context of day to day living ——(((((((where those flaws come to light so much more quickly than in fun hotel rooms meet-ups and vacations)))))))), will take more time to get to the same point— the point of really knowing someone. So when does a couple move to phase 2? When each accepts the other person’s flaws in light of their attributes.. And makes a decision….to love him/her regardless. At some point love is a decision, not a feeling.