When working with couples I’m struck by how the therapy process usually starts off with each partner pointing the finger at the other. He does this and she does that. How long this stage lasts can vary between one session and forever. For there to be real improvement in the relationship eventually that finger pointing to the partner has to turns back to point at the self. What am I doing that is contributing to this problem? What can I change? It’s a tipping point – beyond accusation to personal responsibility. Progress not perfection!