One of the biggest hurdles in healing from infidelity is to trust yourself again. When the affair is discovered, your world is rocked. What you thought was true and stable has turned out not to be as you thought. Deciding to stay in the relationship involves going against all that you told yourself you would do if this happened. What does it say about me, if I agree to go to counseling and accept that this event has happened does this mean I am weak? What about what my family or friends would say? Healing means that you are willing to accept that you love your partner despite what she/he did – that you see the value in him/her that goes beyond the mistake that was made. So you must trust that your choice to stay and work through this is not born of weakness but of strength.