Asking this question gives important assessment information about a relationship. It indicates level of closeness and emotional intimacy and a willingness to be vulnerable and available. It’s also a great indicator of how much underlying anger there is simmering underneath from past emotional injury and resentment. Many modern couples see their sex life crowded out by demands of children, work pressures, not enough time alone — and simply not enough time. In a long-term relationship you just have to have a willingness to be sexual. You just need to respond to your partner’s overtures, even if at first you don’t feel desire. Desire grows with openness to our partner. And the more frequently you have sex and it is satisfying, the more that reinforces your willingness to do it again.” In other words, simply having sex can fuel desire.